I’ve recently been reflecting a lot and I’ve come to the conclusion that so many things in my life are based around the concept ‘time vs money.’
As a working mum, blogger, coach and mindfulness teacher, I know how hard it is to juggle it all. Running a house, raising children, holding down a job and running a business can be so hard at times. So many of my friends feel exactly the same, as we’re at a similar stage in our lives.
A few years ago, I realised that something had to give. For those of you who don’t already know, I suffer with M.E (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome), which makes my energy levels a little lower than most. If I take too much on or overdo it then I really know about it. I’m left feeling severely fatigued and there are a whole range of symptoms that with it, including; headaches, dizziness, nausea, aches and pains amongst other things. It’s such a frustrating illness to have because your mind tells you one thing and your body tells you another. Your mind keeps saying, ‘Go on, keep going, just push through, you’ll be fine’, whereas your body says, ‘Please stop, I can’t do any more, I’m tired and I’ll feel a whole lot worse later.’ This constant battle is annoying and can at times be debilitating for so many (including me).
However, through mindfulness, meditation and coaching I’ve learnt to live with my condition by pacing myself living a life I love. That said, I’ve had to make some decisions about how I manage it and over the last couple of years we’ve decided to enlist the help of others.
We now have a cleaner that comes to the house fortnightly and they help us to keep on top of the house. We have a gardener who comes every 8 weeks or so and they help us to keep on top of the ever-growing bushes, turn over the soil and cut back plants etc. For the business, I’ve enlisted the support of Faye (my go-to person) who helps me with marketing the business and so much more. I’ve recently had a website developer help with titivating and updating the AL website too (I hope you like it!).
All of this comes at a cost of course, and sometimes I feel so guilty about enlisting the supporting of others. However, I know Richard and I can’t do all of the above and keep our health and sanity, so we had a choice to make. Do we want to spend money to buy in the support we need, or do we want to save money and spend more of our time doing these chores?
For us, we decided to take a balanced approach and we try to be as organised and productive as possible. We work as a team to keep the house tidy, run the boys to and from their after school and weekend activities, to feed us all and keep us all clothed, which takes a huge amount of effort and time. I know so many people who feel too guilty to hire in help and then they’re left feeling overwhelmed by the amount of things they’ve got to juggle.
I understand that some may not be able to hire in help due to the financial cost, so my advice to them would be to be kind to yourself and pace yourself with everything you’ve got to do. Get as much support as you can and get everyone in the house contributing to the household chores as much as you can. Many hands make light work!
Upon reflection, I’m happy with the choices we’ve made. I understand that this is one period of time in our life and that in the future, things may change when we have more time on our hands. But for now I’m happy with the way we live our lives.