The one thing we can absolutely count on throughout our lifetime is ‘change’. We change as individuals as we grow and throughout the different chapters of our lives, we change as a result of the experiences and events that have occurred for us in life and as a result of this, our relationships change. The people that surround us change as well as our work, career and other aspects of our life too. Change is inevitable yet, it can be one of the hardest things for us to deal with. For some change can make us feel uneasy, anxious and it can even send some of us into a tailspin. The link between resilience and change is huge, so in knowing all of this, what can we do to make change easier for us?
That’s the million dollar question. But, the first step with any of this is understanding how ‘change’ affects you. Raising your awareness to your own thoughts, feelings and emotions is the first step to making positive changes and strengthening your own resilience. So begin by asking yourself these questions;
1. When you’re faced with change, how do you deal with it? Do you often catastrophsise or do you underestimate what the change will mean to you? Whatever it is, the first step is being aware of how change affects you.
2. How do you feel about the change you’re experiencing? Are you feeling positive, negative or apprehensive about this change?
3. What thoughts are occurring for you right now? If you’re being honest with yourself, are these thoughts helping or hindering you at this present time?
3. What emotions and feelings are arising for you? How are they making you feel, and where are they coming from ~ gut feeling, head, heart?
4. Are these emotions and feelings affecting the way you’re behaving right now? If so, in what way? Are they causing you to behave in a more positive or negative way and is this affecting the way you interact with those around you?
The more you understand about the way you feel, and how you behave in a particular situation, the better. You will then be able to unpick this behaviour and understand where it stems from. Once you understand this, you need to get to the root cause of it and start looking at why you do what you do.
You can then start to reflect and understand if it’s learned behaviour and/or if it’s engrained habits. Once you understand this you’ll be able to start exploring and understanding what you do to adapt or change this behaviour for the better.
Once you start questioning yourself in this way you can begin to reflect on your own behaviours as a result of your thoughts and that’s when true change occurs.
We’ve covered alot in this blog, but it’s important to start at the beginning with anything like this. Seeking to understand is the first step of any positive change.
This blog post is Part 1 of the ‘Strengthening your own resilience’ theme and next month we’ll be sharing the next steps to all of this. This will help you to move from where you are now to where you want to be. Isn’t that what we all want?!
So take some time out for you to reflect on the above and if you have any queries, questions or comment please post below. We’d love to hear from you. Good luck!