This is a topic that’s very dear to my heart as I’ve come across so many people who really struggle with their own self-worth through my coaching business and I know myself that I have had issues with this in the past.

Self-worth is the sense of one’s own value and it’s something that so many people struggle with during their lifetime. As a coach and mindfulness teacher, I’ve worked with so many people who have struggled with self-confidence and self-esteem issues and this has negatively impact their own self-worth. It’s left them questioning everything, and feeling less worthy than those around them. Some have felt unworthy of the happiness and success that they have, whilst others are searching for some magic formula to increase their own self-worth which we both know doesn’t exist. When your struggling with your own self-worth it can leave you feeling unhappy more often than not, and struggling to find joy in everyday life.

There are so many reasons why people struggle with self-worth, some people have been led to believe by others that they are not worthy or destined for happiness. Whilst others have had a bad experience or a negative experience that has impacted their own feelings about how they see themselves and that of the world.

I myself suffered with self-esteem issues when I was younger and was always looking for external praise or recognition to help feed these self-esteem issues and this impacted on my self-worth. I had a desire to feel needed and wanted, and as a result of this would often go above and beyond for others even when it wasn’t reciprocated and this left me feeling hurt and upset. There were times when I felt left out or bitter towards the people that treated me badly as they could never really know the things that I was dealing with. Over time through Mindfulness, Meditation and Coaching I’ve been on a long road of self-discovery and I’ve really started to understand what makes me tick and for that I am eternally grateful.

I’m currently happier than ever now but, through my business I ventured into social media territory and this in itself is a whole mind field. It’s complicated and looks easy from the outside but, it really is complicated and I’ve learned it’s important to have a healthy approach towards it otherwise it could completely take over.

When I started on this journey with the Aspirational Living I wanted to make a difference to the lives of others and help them to live a life they loved. I wanted to help them to live their life the conscious way. Using social media, I started sharing positive quotes and blog posts about how to do just that but, during that time I suffered a crisis of confidence and could see so many others doing exactly the same thing but, it felt as though they were further along the journey than I was.

I’ve learnt that my own self-worth doesn’t depend on how many followers I have and I’ve learnt to stay true to myself and continued to share positive insights and inspirations that hopefully inspired others to live life the way they choose to and in their own way. It’s so easy to get swayed by others on social media but I am staying true to myself and for that I’m proud.

When I started out on this journey I said to my husband Richard that my main motivator was to help others live life the conscious way and to help stop this fast-paced world that we’re living in, one person at a time. I could see first-hand how it was affecting my own mental health and physical health and I was feeling overwhelmed, lost, and stuck in the life I was living. I was lurching from one thing to another never really being present in anything.

I suffered mind chatter and I struggled to switch off and relax. I had never been taught to do this before and so this was completely alien to me but, after I mastered the technique of meditation and mindfulness, I decided to retrain so I could help the lives of others. On this journey I’ve come across negativity from others about the way I’m choosing to live my life and about the things I share on social media and my answer to them was that I’m trying to make a difference in the world and I’m not robbing banks. I think eventually 3 years on these people do get it but, the real revelation for me is that their words and opinions no longer affect me and I’m moving forward in the direction that I choose to in the way I choose to.

I refuse to be held back by the opinions of others and I’m happy on this journey wherever it may take me. On a final note I’m also pleased to say that I’ve helped not one, not two, three or four people but so many more along the way and for that I’m eternally proud. I’m not saying that to show off or inflate my own ego, I’m telling you this because I’m proud of what I’ve achieved and I’m proud of the strides people have taken in their own lives.

So many people I’ve worked with have gone onto live a life they love and they’re following their dreams too. That’s what makes me happy, that’s what increases my self-worth knowing I’ve helped others.

Life is too short to please others, live your life the way you choose to. Someone once told me, ‘Be kind and work hard at something you love doing,’ and that’s what I intend to do {and you should to}.

So the questions I pose to you are;

1. What does self-worth mean to you?
2. What fills you up and makes you feel good?
3. On a scale of 1-10, what would you rate your own self-worth right now?
4. If your self-worth needs attention right now what could you do to increase this?

Take control of your thoughts, design a life you love and invest in you by taking the time out to understand your own needs and wants.

Be happy.

 

Love, Kelly xx